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Empty Nest-October

Time is FLYING! I cannot believe that it is the last day of October! I thought I would be searching for things to when the kids went off to school. Fortunately, that has so not been the case. Life is good and I am learning to embrace my new stage of life. Don’t get me wrong. I miss my kids, but I am doing fine.This month I got to take a quick trip to Bonita Springs to celebrate a friend’s 50th and our darling son even got to tag along. Our darling daughter got to spend a few days at home over her fall break. Yes, I did cry when it was time to say goodbye, but it’s all good I got to see both of my kiddos this month. This month I started following a dream. I have been taking an online course in writing for children. It has been great! I only have one more class, but still have a long way to go and a lot to learn. Should be fun!

Life is good and I am loving it!

Week 6 & Week 7

So, I am a little late. Since I have been a little busy the last couple weeks and I think I am the only person reading these posts, I gave myself permission to let it slide a bit. I have been trying to post ever Sunday, but week 6 Sunday I was away. I got an opportunity to head to Nashville to visit my parents so I took it. And best of all both my darling children drove up and over! So I got to hug both of them! There is something so incredible about actually laying your eyes and hugging your children that only becomes apparent when then have moved away. It is unbelievably great! Believe me. Seeing my family and getting away has nothing on actually wrapping my arms around my babies. Of course the pictures of my trip are of an amazing independent bookstore and sights around Nashville, not of my babies (they do not like to be photographed). None the less, I couldn’t be happier. Nashville is where I call home and where I met my darling husband. Lots of great memories. I a a grateful Mama to get to spend some time withmy babies!

Week 7 I really have no excuse but catching up from being away. On a positive note, I have finally taken a step to really move towards a dream/fantasy. Outside of my family two of my greatest loves are kids and books. This week I started an online children’s lit. writing course. I am soooo excited! I am the only one in the class that has never actually written anything, but I am not going to let that discourage me. I am so ready for this. I don’t even care if I write anything, I just want to be part of it. I am following a dream no matter what the outcome. This is one of those rewards of the empty nest.

Life goes on, look for the good, it is there<3

 

Empty Nest-Week 4

I am a day late, but better late than never! It was a week packed with ups and downs. In this post I want to focus on the up! I got to visit my dd (darling daughter)! It has been about a month since we dropped her off for her freshman year. It was the best a mom could hope for. I got to spend time with her, her roommate, and some of her new friends. It was incredible. She has already grown so much in such a short time. It was clear that she is happy and settling into her new home. She already has such a connection with her surroundings and new friends. Brunch with her sweet friends had the ease that comes with old friends. Part of my heart aches with not seeing her every day, while the other part bursts with joy at the beauty of her new life. Thank goodness for my beautiful BAMA welcoming me home. Without him the house would have been way to quiet with everyone away doing their thing. I am a lucky woman.

Empty Nest-Week 3

So this week has been a week of quotes:

  • Super Soul Sunday podcast-“We want life to be a train ride. We choose a destination and have a few stops along the way, but ultimately end up where we choose. But, life is more like a sailboat ride.” (I feel like this was directed right at me! The sooner I accept that the sooner I can sit back and enjoy the ride, the better the ride will be!)
  • Yoga teacher” Don’t fear change. Things only last as long as they should, or need to.” (Take the good and the bad, learn from it, and remember that nothing lasts forever. Enjoy the good, grow from the difficult and be grateful for everything in your life.)
  • Friend-“…this empty nest thing doesn’t have to be a bad thing…” ( After 20 years of being devoted to my children, it might be fun to go with the flow)

There is wisdom all around me. I just need to be open to it.

Empty Nest-Week 2

Week two is in the books! I made it through another one. I think the key is to have a focus each week. Last week I focused on getting back into a workout routine, 2 days of yoga and 2 of Pilates. Enough to make me feel like I am working, but not enough to overwhelm me. Just need to keep it going.

Not much to say, but I survived!!! On to next week. The goal is to clean, organize and multipurpose the kids empty rooms. Wahoo!

 

Empty Nest- Week 1, Crossing the Bridge

One week ago today my husband and I were making the cross-country trip home without our kids. Having deposited one in Tennessee and one in Alabama we were officially empty nesters. We had made this massive drive the year before when dropping off our oldest, but it felt different. Last year there were a lot of tears. If I am being honest, I think it was more about the end of something rather than a beginning. It was like our family was being downsized and my role was being phased out. This year there is still some sadness, but there is also hopefulness and excitement. I am excited for both of our kids and the year that is before them, I am also excited for my husband and I as a couple, and for me.

For the first time in 2 decades my daily life will not revolve around my children. Oh I am sure there are a fair number of people out there that would say it never should have revolved around them, but that is not the point. I am not here to debate if my parenting style was on point or not. I am here now to embrace this change with excitement and childish possibility.

I have known this was coming and really have spent time thinking about what I would do once it came; should I head back to the classroom, should I start a business, should I become a lady who lunches. Well the reality is that I have spent many hours pondering and pontificating about this transition, but nothing has really stuck. Case in point, I have had this blog for over a year and although there have been many content changes, it has remained mostly quiet. If you have ever seen the Reese Witherspoon movie, Home Again, there is a scene that sums up my last few years. Reese’s  character is discouraged and talking about all the hobbies she has tried to parlay into a career unsuccessfully.  The reality is that you can’t force it and I have spent way to much time trying to make it happen. So there is a new plan, no plan.

I am an empty nester. It is crazy what a mixed bag of emotions those words bring bubbling to the surface, as well as a surplus of opinions from people on how to manage it correctly. I will mind my own business and kindly ask that others do the same. Only positivity please.

From here on out, I have no plan. I am going to explore my interests, date my husband and take advantage of all that my life has to offer. As I focus on my blessings and gifts hopefully somewhere along the way a spark will ignite and I will find a new job/passion, if not, oh well, I will have had some fun and learned a few things.